"…Love is experienced in relationship. Without someone to love you, the feeling of love – the warmth in a mother’s heart, the gladness of friendship, the excitement of intimacy -have no stimulus. That is why the commonest image for being unloved is being alone. When you are alone, there seems to be no relationship. People who find themselves alone rarely feel any incentive to explore love. They await contact with another person or run out to seek it. Thus we become dependent on other people to make us feel totally and permanently loved.
This expectation will, however, always be defeated, and although we blame those who failed to respond to us, who responded but then left, who stayed but then changed their minds, non of them is finally the cause of our problems. The cause is our inability to develop an unshakable relationship with ourselves. The Self is the source of love. People who live their own love stories have learned this lesson above all else…" Deepak Chopra, Author