How do we become reasonably comfortable in your own skin? Learn to get out of your own way. How often? Every single day.
We are our greatest personal asset, and our own worse enemy. No one can help us more effectively, or hurt us more perfectly, than we can do to ourselves.
God speaks to us, the same way. Through our unconscious mind. The unconscious mind is the mind of God. He 'pings' us, through what a man would call our 'gut feeling,' and what a woman would recognize as her 'intuition.'
How is it that a woman recognizes a bad person approaching someone she loves, without knowing anything about them.
She will often say to her husband, "that person over there is no good. I get a bad feeling." The husband, looking only to reason, challenges, "how could you say something about someone you don't know and never met?"
And then, a short time later there is a crisis recognized with this identified person. We see them in the paper doing some horrible thing to someone else.
How did she know, the husband wants to know. Simple. She was listening to that little, simple, loud voice inside her soul.
Her intuition was speaking. Really, God was speaking, through her (intuition).
What is the purpose of life? Simple. To be transparent to God's will. That's it.