"We don't love because of, we love in spite of. In spite of our disappointments and frustrations and let downs. If we loved because of, we would not love many. Truth be told, we might not find a way to love ourselves. Love in spite of and you will find a way to love most everyone."
The basis of this belief I got from someone else, during the course of my life. The actual saying, as I lived it, is all mine.
John Hope Bryant